When Christmas Feels Hard

Let’s be honest — not everyone looks forward to Christmas.For many, this time of year brings up more heaviness than joy. The world around us feels drenched in celebration, families gathered around tables, endless ads about togetherness… but for some, that just highlights the absence of connection.

If that’s you — I see you.

The truth we don’t talk about

Christmas can be a beautiful time, but it can also be incredibly painful.For those who have lost someone, who feel alone, or who have complicated family dynamics — this season can hit deep.

For me, it’s been 15 years since I’ve had a relationship with my mother and brothers. That estrangement has been one of the hardest parts of my journey.And while time softens the edges, the ache of what could have been never fully disappears.

But here’s what I’ve learnt — we can still create our own version of connection.

Chosen family is still family

I may not have my biological family in my life, but I have something just as powerful — my chosen family.The people who show up, who see me, who hold space when things feel heavy. They’re not related by blood, but they fill my cup in ways that truly matter.

If you’re feeling that loneliness or grief this Christmas, please remember — you don’t have to do it alone. Reach out to your people, the ones who make you feel safe, the ones who lift your energy just by being near.

Send a message. Go for a walk. Have a cuppa together.

Staying connected — even in small ways — can shift everything.

Be gentle with yourself

If the holidays bring up emotions, let them.It’s okay to cry, to rest, to take space.You don’t have to be festive. You don’t have to show up the way everyone else does.

Honour what your body and heart need.Light a candle. Spend time in nature. Breathe deeply. Do whatever helps you feel grounded and safe.

Because Christmas isn’t just about family gatherings or gifts — it’s about love. And love comes in many forms.

A little reminder

You matter.

You’re seen.

You belong — exactly as you are, even if this season looks different for you.

Find your people. Connect in ways that fill you up.Family doesn’t have to be defined by blood — it’s the souls who see you, love you, and remind you that you’re not alone.

Sending softness and strength to anyone finding this season tough.I see you. 🌸

Much love, Aimz

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